life's all about the choices we make, so if you make choices well you'll succeed. It sounds like stating the obvious, but it isnt.
Because few of us really believe how much control we have over our lives. After all, sometimes it really does feel like the whole world's against you. Your PC crashes and everything's lost? Traffic makes you late? but the truth is that it's your decisions that determined what happened. Like you could have backed up your PC, or set off earlier..
so its worth thinking about the choices one makes. because they become habits that define who you are. like the child who endlessly skimps on her homework- and eventually misses out on going to college..
Its not easy though, in these days of quick results and instant gratification. Tempting you to put your career, social life and glitzy possessions ahead of your family. and to move on anytime things get tough. partly its because all that marketing hype creates such high expectations. and makes us feel things should be effortless. so whenever your partner seems less than perfect, its easy to believe that there's someone else out there who is exactly what you are missing. and so you only 'conditionally commit' to one another. until a better options appears....
we would all be a lot better off if our expectations were more realistic. so before you decide that your partner's not giving you what you want. ask whether anyone could! its sad how often marriages struggle when really whats happening is that you've set your hopes too high. so anytime your partner's driving you nuts, ask yourself whether you're being fair. and make sure you're meeting their needs before you start complaining that your own aren't being met.
like always doing what you say you're going to do. your word is everything to your spouse! so dont let your work takes priority, because your partner's needs must come first. like if you say you're goind to be somewhere, be there. on time. successful couples do work hard of course-but they set limits to it. they're focused and professional, avoid bringing work home, and live simply in order to reduce financial pressures and working hours. putting your relationship first may mean you'll never be the wealthiest people around, but you'll certainly be leading the richest lives.
so if you want to reduce marriage to one simple rule. its this, be committed! and live a life that says you are, every single day. because the song's wrong. it s not love that makes the world go round. its commitment. and why's that? its because the love that lasts forever only start growing when you both know you'll always be there for each other.
